Family part 2

Also I want to explore some more about how we don't fully understand what Paul means by family because we didn't live family lives like this

So Simon was wiling to live with his wife, his mother-in-law and his younger brother and support them all and teach his brother the family trade. There is something in this interconnectedness of family that we really do not get now at all, which is why I think that when various congregations talk about the church being a family we all sort of get hurt by it.
Back when Paul was teaching on church being family it was this whole interconnected supportiveness of each other just because we were brothers and sisters in Christ, that I believe he meant. But because in natural families we do not do this now and so very rarely do we do this in our congregations. Not from lack of trying but just because life is so much more different. We do not live in the same towns we were born in, we do not follow the same trades as our parents, we do not know even our neighbours at times. But then to try to recreate that in a congregational setting where again people have mostly driven to go, even in small towns they can live over a mile away which to just be sharing lives is hard work.
But I think too it is trying to go into something that we don't know how to because we have not seen it in real life and we do not quite look at the maker's instructions.
I wonder why - and I think it is because it will take time, will mean we will have to give a bit of ourselves and, knowing as a parent there is a lot of giving and sometimes very little return. In fact I'd say that just for living in a family. And the closer we live with people the more it exposes our weaknesses and really we are a bit scared of that.
Perhaps we need to stop refering to the collectivity of Christians as family but find a word, a phrase that works better. Yes I know we are all brothers and sisters in Christ but the collective term Family doesnt seem to work like it use to